Folks, prepare for an all-out assault on your senses over the next few weeks.
With the death of Michael Jackson – undoubtedly the most famous musician of our time – millions upon millions of people across the globe will be grieving and reminiscing over a person who shaped a generation, gave them happy times and fond memories and allowed people to share in the “magic” of celebrity. You’ll be hearing MJ’s tracks and seeing his moves not just on the normal places that we avoid, but on the news channels, in the supermarkets, on the streets and just about everywhere you can think of non-stop as people “remember the time”.
And no, the Muslims will not be immune from this either. I like to generally divide those “practising” brothers and sisters from my generation (the 30-somethings) into two groups: the first are those who were always basically good people and remained roughly on the straight and narrow right until this day. The second group are those who have been to the Dark Side, have been well past the edge, delved into hedonism and pretty much immersed themselves into everything the culture of kufr has to offer (and indeed even become leaders/players in that culture?) only to re-surface and enter back into the Light by the immense grace and mercy of Allah jalla wa ‘ala.
I’m definitely from the second group and to Allah I complain of my weakness. And if the discussions after Jumu‘ah today are anything to go by, the death of MJ has clearly shown that there are many more of us than we imagined. So this little piece is for you folks and for you alone.
It’s for those who are confused at this moment: you are hearing about the death of a person who quite simply defined your childhood, who gave you unforgettable moments when you waited on edge for the next video release, when you heard beats that shook the soul. It’s for those who used to love music and the effect it had on the heart, and indeed for those who still get affected the same way when they listen or hear it today. It’s also for those who don’t wish to hear music due to that effect and the memories it brings back, and the hold-up it creates in moving forward purely into the Deen of Allah and the memorisation of His Perfect Speech.
Yes, it’s about dealing with those musical skeletons in our closets. Either beat them and move on, or move to MJ’s “Beat It” and go backwards.
For us such people, music was nothing more than bliss for the soul, a shudder for the spine, bass to rumble the joints. It had the power and ability to take people and transport them instantly across huge divides and even time gaps back into history. Its effect is vastly under-estimated which is why many Muslims simply cannot understand why their fellow brothers and sisters are making such a big deal of an artist as talented and masterful as Michael Jackson. I read something from Puff Daddy (or whatever they call him these days) today that he said about MJ, “He was the first person to actually show me the beat.” For those who know their music, this is a perfect description of the magic MJ possessed.
I feel that Muslim scholars deal with the topic of music very poorly. Many of them simply (and rather fortunately!) cannot appreciate the hold music can have over the hearts of its victims. When one starts to practice Islam seriously, it becomes very easy to see how busy a person needs to be keeping their hearts pure, clean and memorising that which brings us closer to Allah jalla wa ‘ala. Remember what Imām al-Shāfi‘ī said when he asked his teacher Wakī‘:
I complained to Wakī‘ about my bad memory,
and he taught me that I should keep away from sin.
He said that knowledge of Allah is light,
and the light of Allah is not given to the sinner.
The more you remember the pointless, the less space is left for that which benefits. Trust me. I’ve just so been there.
The problem comes when those who know nothing about music simply to try to write it off as something disgusting, evil and satanic. Sure, much of music might be exactly that in its content, but Muslims don’t get rewarded from abstaining from music in their lives because it’s a meaningless past-time. Rather the reward is proportionate to the huge sacrifice it takes to stay away from something that the soul desires for so much, misses during the lonely times, yearns for during the party times, and weeps over when reminded of it in times such as these when the airwaves and every other wave in the public will be brimming of musical tributes to the greatest musician of his generation.
Yet here, the Muslims should count their blessings and be very grateful to the religion of Islam. Alhamdulillah, our Lord gave us something infinitely more perfect, beautiful, melodious and devastatingly impactive upon the soul: al-Qur’an’l-Karim.
For every MJ fan, there is a Minshawi. For every Presley fan, there is an Abdul Basit. For every Timberlake fan, there is a Ghamidi. For those who have no-one they cared about in the music industry, “…fallāhu Mawlāhu.”
Can you imagine life without the Qur’an? Can you imagine not being able to just pick it up and read a page and then experience that sensation where one struggles to breathe in amazement at what you’ve just read? Can you imagine having a heart in your chest that hasn’t physically quivered when a certain verse has been recited, even if by the poorest of reciters?
That’s why I feel so sad when I hear some music playing somewhere – excellent music at that – from back in the day. I think of all the people who are finding it as stunning as I am, but then having nothing else to turn to as an alternative. I fully understand the almost ridiculous outpouring of grief that has been witnessed from fans upon the loss of their musical King – what else do they have left? What else will they move on to other than to keep replaying the same old tunes and keep up the entertainment game, as Shaykh Hamza famously once said, an industry that has no other purpose but to keep it all going for as long as possible and entertain you to death. Literally.
But I digress. This wasn’t meant to be about Muslims gloating that we have something better than what the world can produce.
This is about dealing with the guilt that we feel when we start to replay all the lyrics, relive all the memories, the tragedies and the good times that come rushing back upon those few lyrics that you hear. It’s about the benefit that we took at those times, and then how we protected ourselves then from music’s inherent harms, and how we can continue to protect ourselves today. What we must do is to be able to understand what we are enjoying and what we shouldn’t enjoy from what we hear; what we admire and what should be criticised.
We mustn’t become lazy and just paint the entire canvas black. Although understanding the methodology of those who are happy to throw the baby out with the bath water, I’d prefer to give some easier options to those who are still addicted to music or those who are struggling to come to terms with their inner demons when confronted by this musical assault on our hearts.
I feel sad when I read some of the lyrics of the more soulful songs that we used to listen to and recognise how some Muslims are missing out on important lessons. There are complete societies of Muslims that have never interacted with a culture of love, romance, heartbreak, absence and the general issues that affect relationships, and it is so obvious when we deal with their problems. There are large numbers of Muslims that due to their excellence and cautiousness, protect themselves from such issues and experiences due to the impermissible aspects found in music, and yet some of them don’t replace the good things and experiences via a deep study and appreciation of Ahmed Shawki, or Iqbal, or even Qadhi ‘Abdul Wahhab al-Maliki (!)
If a type of Islam is promoted that has a complete block on art and emotion that (correctly) shields them from some of the corrupt aspects of popular Western culture today but yet at the same time doesn’t replace this with poetry or love stories which the Muslims have always had in huge abundance, then we get the kind of marital difficulties and breakdowns of relationships that we experience today from a people who have never heard the lyrics to “I just can’t stop loving you”. Can you imagine a wife never realising that her husband loved her more than the guy in the above song, but might have been able to save her marriage if both of them had the industry and guts to show their love for one another either through a song or a poem or the mutual sharing of a deep and personal moment in ways that Muslims are just so poor at dealing with?
I remember a senior scholar who once told me that whenever he goes through a difficult patch with his wife, he will just sit there and recite Arab poetry to her, describing her in terms better than Layla herself. That’s a quality that many Muslims are missing in their lives, and although I’m not advocating that due to our collective weakness in classical poetry we should all go back to listening to music, I still think that we are not as guilty as we might make ourselves out to be for reflecting upon lyrics, messages and emotional experiences that we felt or indeed feel when reminded of times gone by through the medium of music.
Let me do the obligatory thing and quote an MJ lyric. Let’s use the chorus of “Man in the Mirror”:
I’m starting with the man in the mirror,
I’m asking him to change his ways
No message could have been any clearer
If you wanna make the world a better place
Take a look at yourself and then make the change
You gotta get it right, while you got the time
‘Cause when you close your heart
You can’t close your… your mind!
I wrote this because the way I treat other peoples’ difficulty with music and other sinful issues is by remembering my own times and difficulties first and starting there. Changing others means changing yourself first, and changing your love for music is about the most difficult thing there is out there. But it can be done. The more serious and deep an interest you take in your religion, the more you’ll become closer to the Qur’an. The deeper and more seriously and sincerely you advance, the better it will become insha’Allah.
It’s never been easy to leave the beat, but alhamdulillah for the wonder, serenity, and perfection of Allah’s Word. Music…beat it.
June 26, 2009 at 10:42 pm
Your just great mashallah, I really needed that. Jazakhallah Khairun
June 26, 2009 at 10:42 pm
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June 26, 2009 at 11:01 pm
“It’s never been easy to leave the beat”
Three years gone and I still recognise a beat from a mile away,walking past JD sports sometimes you dont even realise that youre actually bopping your head to an old school classic. The weirdest thing is that you still tend to remember lyrics from old NWA,Snoop Dogg or Tupac tunes and yet a week away from the Quran, you begin to get rusty!
June 27, 2009 at 12:10 am
Send me your email please.
June 27, 2009 at 12:20 am
now I have visions of the husbands (including you AE) singing ” i just cant stop loving you ” to their wives ..and the latter saying in bewilderment ” who are you and what have you done with my husband?”
seriously though..music is hard but having found such beauty in the quran and its recitation…adds an extra dimension to lyrics and sound…
even the adhaan sends that shiver down your spine
a tip for increasing your love for the quran
join a challenging tajweed course..makes you open your mus-haf more than you did before…
June 27, 2009 at 12:55 am
Salam. What i don’t understand is why did he have that affect on people? Why did he make us feel that way, make us love him? Its really strange..
June 28, 2009 at 9:11 pm
I think it might be because of his past, at least for me the difficulties and struggles with his family life in his childhood made me feel sorry for him. No doubt his music was something else but I just felt bad for him and wanted peace for him.
June 27, 2009 at 1:07 am
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June 27, 2009 at 1:12 am
JazakAllah
June 27, 2009 at 3:29 am
Some of the Afr-Am shuyookh are reacting to Michael’s death in a way that reflects both their soft hearts and recognition of the fact, one cannot deny one’s past. I appreciate that honesty.
What I appreciate even more, however, is how you have linked this topic with a whole host of issues, especially the lack of emotion Muslims display. Its saddening but the reality, I believe, is this is why our tazkya and tarbiya is not succeeding- many of us are fundamentally out of touch with the human condition. Tupac and MJ are more human to us- and Islam feels rigid, textbookish, strict and for emotionless angels. This is why Muslims get girlfriends and boyfriends! This is why brothers will reject sisters because they see amazing religiosity- but yet no compassion, mercy and caring in them. How do we expect to come close to Allah when we don’t connect Islam with our very SOUL? What value is a soul-less religion?
I understand now, more than ever, why the shuyookh of the past would not accept students if those same students had never fallen in love before.
The Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam said, “The deen is SINCERITY.” He also rejected a marriage proposal because the women did not experience any hardships in her life. He knew people’s hearts and knew how to get to them. Why don’t we?
June 28, 2009 at 8:47 pm
You have explained how i have been feeling about some of our brothers and sisters for the past couples so eloquently, it amazes me! JazakhAllahu Kheir Brother, may Allah reward you with janntul firdous!
June 27, 2009 at 10:48 am
Thank you Ustath! Love it! JazakumAllahu khayran.
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June 27, 2009 at 5:19 pm
‘If a type of Islam is promoted that has a complete block on art and emotion that (correctly) shields them from some of the corrupt aspects of popular Western culture today but yet at the same time doesn’t replace this with poetry or love stories which the Muslims have always had in huge abundance, then we get the kind of marital difficulties and breakdowns of relationships that we experience today from a people who have never heard the lyrics to “I just can’t stop loving you”.
What a blockhead. This is on the same level as Usama Hasan’s ‘if you don’t listen to music you must be addicted to porn and want to blow things up’.
June 27, 2009 at 5:44 pm
No, it isn’t blockhead.
June 28, 2009 at 8:58 pm
I wouldn’t call him a blockhead (grow up!), but I don’t know if I agree with Abu Eesa’s above quote, not least because I’ve never heard it put that way. Am I right in thinking that you’re saying husbands are not affectionate & romantic because they have not exposed themselves to music, love stories, poetry???
June 29, 2009 at 3:01 am
Maybe AE’s point is husbands are not romantic etc not because they haven’t been exposed to music but rather they haven’t been been shown ways to express these feelings.
June 27, 2009 at 6:04 pm
The scholars of the past loved their poetry.
June 27, 2009 at 9:50 pm
I guess the French don’t mind ‘Islamic clothing’ when there’s money to be made….
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/fashion/fashionnews/5655392/Abaya-gets-a-makeover-from-John-Galliano-and-Blumarine.html
June 27, 2009 at 10:51 pm
Barakallahukfeek!
June 27, 2009 at 11:05 pm
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June 27, 2009 at 11:47 pm
Imam Suhaib Webb posted:
Was MJ Muslim?
Asalamu alaykum,
Not sure. But I know one thing, my neighbors are not. Perhaps I need to rethink my priorities?
June 28, 2009 at 8:56 am
mashaAllah well said by imam suhaib
July 3, 2009 at 5:01 pm
succinct. mashallah. made me lol too.
jzk for sharing
June 28, 2009 at 12:02 am
Salam,
Could you please tell us more about shaykh Shanqiti as you promised when you announced his death.
Thank you
June 28, 2009 at 12:55 am
Extracted from http://imamjohari.wordpress.co,
Imam Visits Michael Jackson’s Family to Discuss Funeral Arrangements
UPDATE: Many have asked concerning the below. I heard the report on CNN’s Wolf Blitzer’s show “The Situation Room”. He briefly mentioned it during the coverage of Michael Jackson.
Al-Hamdulillah, CNN reported that the Jackson family is meeting with an imam to make the funeral arrangements for the janazah (Muslim funeral prayer) for Michael Jackson. I pray that Allah will have mercy on his soul and grant the family some privacy as they make the plans for a Muslim funeral. I ask Muslims to reserve their judgement and pray for him and his family. Please send your condolences: http://www.legacy.com/gb2/default.aspx?bookid=5875644172354 .
I pray that Muslims will respond to this loss our brother in every loving way possible. I do not know when and were the prayers will be. I trust that the masjid that Jermaine Jackson attends will handle the prayers and preparation. The West Coast Muslims in LA and Imam Zaid Shaker or Sheikh Hamza are hopefully in the loop? May Allah help them. We have not had a major figure in the pop world pass away before Micheal Jackson. I pray that we will do our best and that Allah will have mercy.show
June 28, 2009 at 1:03 am
“Each day people with tremendous lives pass from this world – farmers, students, cab drivers, children, elderly retired teachers, soldiers and parents. Who are we to judge the degrees of their “success” or the levels to which their lives touched the lives of others? Each day we should mourn the losses of the world’s valuable contributors, and each day we should celebrate the positive achievements of all our earth’s inhabitants.” – Dawud Wharnsby
From his blog.
June 28, 2009 at 1:20 am
assalaam’alaykum
I mean no disrespect but…
Yo abu Eesa….
I gotta give it you man….
you are the man….
June 28, 2009 at 3:26 am
Jazak Allahu khayran for that brother. You put in words a lot of what I’ve been feeling. I have many memories of MJ. My son loved him so much, I even took him to the big concert at the SCG. That concert moved me too – he was amazing, and the sounds were awsome! Especially a song about the planet.
In regards to music, when I reverted, it was very very hard for me to give up music ( I was a musician all of my life). I just couldn’t believe that God would say music was bad for you!
It was actually during the Swan Lake ballet that I took my daughter too, while the amazing music by the orchestra swelled, that I finally understood it.
I realised that music was not bad, but Allah had made it haram for us as a test. I was able to live with that.
And I remembered the hadith that was mentioned on a Bilal Assad lecture about the people of Jannah. He said there is a tree in Jannah that makes the most beautiful music that we’ve never experienced when the wind blows through the leaves, that is saved only for those who gave up music in Dunya for the sake of Allah.
I want to hear that music!!! Just imagine, music that is more beautiful than anything we’ve ever experienced in dunya!
May Allah (swt) guide us all to the truth, and help us to give up those things that do not benefit our akhira, and replace them with something that does.
July 3, 2009 at 8:16 am
Not sure if the description above is in a hadith from the Prophet (ṣallallāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam).
Although Ibn Kathir in his tafsir of (وَظِلٍّۢ مَّمْدُودٍ) in Surah Al-Waqi’ah quotes the following statement from Ibn Abbas:
الظل الممدود : شجره فى الجنة على ساق ، قدر مايسير الراكب المجد فى ظلها مئة عام ، فى كل نواحيها ، فيخرج أهل الجنة أهل الغرف وغيرهم فيتحدثون فى ظلها قال : فيشتهى بعضهم ويذكر لهو الدنيا ، فيرسل الله ريحا من الجنة فتحرك تلك الشجرة بكل لهو كان فى الدنيا
Narrated by Ibn Abi Hatim and Ibn Abi Dunya. However, Shaikh Al-Albani graded the narration as weak in his checking of the same narration in Al-Targhib wal Tarhib (no.5382).
The first part of the narration about the size of the tree is confirmed from other authentic hadith, it’s just the descriptions about the music that is not.
Wallahu ‘alam.
Ps. Sorry for not translating the narration, it’d take ages. Any volunteers?
June 28, 2009 at 5:02 am
regarding if mj is a Muslim or not wait for the funeral, if its muslim funeral then ull know he was muslim if not then no
June 28, 2009 at 6:41 am
The Reverend Jesse Jackson, who has been acting as a spokesman for the singer’s parents, told CNN that the family would “without a doubt” order an independent examination of the remains.
“This thing has gone from inquiry to investigation,” Jesse Jackson told the CNN news channel.
“Right now there is no peace. We don’t know what happened and we need to know. Michael was not sick before [Wednesday] night. He was not frail.”
y cant any 1 accept his death.the family and friends so ignorant sorry to say but dnt want to accept a natural yyyyyyy that’s reality.his funeral guaranteed wont happen until a month or so has passed.bechara person murray who was at the scene to help mj recover is now being questioned by 50.ridiculous.
how true regarding the hadith ppl want this world and they will hate death.even the fans if u look at the comments and vids they just cant accept by saying eg this aint fair how can this happen he was young.how lost are these ppl.seriously. and shame on us muslims in general for not being in a position as mj to influence make their heart tremble fill WITH emotions tears regrets make them believe so on Forth in ALLAH and his msg(regarding position im not saying be a singer but be a person like our beloved MESSENGER UPON WHOM BE PEACE OR THE SAHABAS WHO CHANGED THE ENTIRE HISTORY OF HUMANITY) OUR NABI PBUH WAS A LEGEND, IS A LEGEND , WILL BE A LEGEND.THE SHABAHS FROM DARKNESS TO LIGHT AMAZING.WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME WE CONTEMPLATED DEEPLY AND THOROUGHLY ON THE DEATH OF OUR BELOVED AND HIS COMPANIONS AND WHAT THEY DID FOR US.NO SCHOLAR NO HUMAN COULD DO JUSTICE.THE BIGGEST REGRET A MUSLIM SHOULD FACE IS THE LOST OF OUR BELOVED PBUH. IF IM CORRECT THERE IS A HADITH REGARDING THIS.SERIOUSLY I TRY MY BEST TO PRACTICE BUT DEEP INSIDE MY HEART I WISHED OUR LEGEND OUR BELOVED RUSOOL PBUH WAS HERE.
June 28, 2009 at 2:12 pm
Niqaab Interrupted.
Wearing my niqab is a choice freely made, for spiritual reasons – Naima B.Robert
I put on my niqab, my face veil, each day before I leave the house, without a second thought. I drape it over my face, tie the ribbons at the back and adjust the opening over my eyes to make sure my peripheral vision is not affected.
Had I a full-length mirror next to the front door, I would be able to see what others see: a woman of average height and build, covered in several layers of fabric, a niqab, a jilbab, sometimes an abayah, sometimes all black, other times blue or brown. A Muslim woman in ‘full veil’. A niqabi.
But is that truly how people see me? When I walk through the park with my little ones in tow, when I reverse my car into a parking space, when I browse the shelves in the frozen section, when I ask how to best cook asparagus at a market stall, what do people see? An oppressed woman? A nameless, voiceless individual? A criminal?
Well, if Mr Sarkozy and others like him have their way, I suppose I will be a criminal, won’t I? Never mind that “it’s a free country”; never mind that I made this choice from my own free will, as did the vast majority of covered women of my generation; never mind that I am, in every other respect, an upstanding citizen who works hard as a mother, author and magazine publisher, spends responsibly, recycles and tries to eat seasonally and buy local produce!
Yes, I cover my face, but I am still of this society. And, as crazy as it might sound, I am human, a human being with my own thoughts, feelings and opinions. I refuse to allow those who cannot know my reality to paint me as a cardboard cut-out, an oppressed, submissive, silenced relic of the Dark Ages. I am not a stereotype and, God willing, I never will be.
But where are those who will listen? At the end of the day, Muslim women have been saying for years that the hijab et al are not oppressive, that we cover as an act of faith, that this is a bonafide spiritual lifestyle choice. But the debate rages on, ironically, largely to the exclusion of the women who actually do cover their faces.
The focus on the niqab is, in my opinion, utterly misplaced. Don’t the French have anything better to do than tell Muslim women how to dress? Don’t our societies have bigger problems than a relative handful of women choosing to cover their faces out of religious conviction? The “burka issue” has become a red herring: there are issues that Muslim women face that are more pressing, more wide-reaching and, essentially, more relevant than whether or not they should be covering with a niqab, burqa or hijab.
At the end of the day, all a ban will do is force Muslim women who choose to cover to retreat even further – it is not going to result in a mass “liberation” of Muslim women from the veil. All women, covered or not, deserve the opportunity to dress as they see fit, to be educated, to work where they deem appropriate and run their lives in accordance with their principles, as long as these choices do not impinge on others’ freedoms. And last time I looked, being able to see a woman’s hair, legs or face were not rights granted alongside “liberté, egalité et fraternité”.
As a Muslim woman living in the UK, I am so grateful for the fact that my society does not force me to choose between being a practising Muslim and an active member of society. I have been able to study, to work, to establish a writing career and run a magazine business, all while wearing a niqaab. I think that that is a credit to British society, no matter what the anti-multiculturali sts may say, and I think the French could learn some very valuable lessons from the British approach.
So, three cheers for those women who make the choice to cover, in whatever way and still go out there every day. Go out to brave the scorn and ridicule of those who think they understand the burka better than those who actually wear it. Go out to face the humiliating headlines. Go out to face the taunts of schoolchildren. Go out to fight another day. Go out to do their bit for society and the common good. Because you never know, if Mr Sarkozy and his supporters have their way, there could come a day when these women think twice about going out there into a society that cannot bear the way they look. And, who knows, I could be one of them.
And, while some would disagree, I think that would be a sad day.
Na’ima B. Robert is the founding editor of SISTERS:
Times Online June 26, 2009
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June 28, 2009 at 6:52 pm
mashaAllah a nice article by Naima B Robert
is it possible for more niqaabi sisters to follow her suit and be able to interview well and write articles in the non muslim domain
At the very least would getting involved in the local non muslim community could help break down barriers.People will then humanise the sisters in niqaab and realise that niqaabis are just people at the end of the day who wish no harm on anyone else.
June 28, 2009 at 6:52 pm
JazakAllahu khairan shaykhana. Truly, truly, appreciated post.
June 28, 2009 at 7:28 pm
Assalamu Alaikum,
SubhanAllah this article made me cry and may Allah reward you for posting this. I loved every part of this article and what you wrote couldn’t be far from the truth.
June 28, 2009 at 7:40 pm
jazak Allahu khayran, that’s a really well-done piece on music.
June 28, 2009 at 8:20 pm
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June 28, 2009 at 9:31 pm
I’ve, heard it all “he’s a genius he’s this he’s that I can’t believe it “he’s dead he was a Muslim? We All need to search deep inside us maybe ask what has it to do with anything in my life? Before he died Michael Jackson never came into the equations of anything in my sphere of life e.g. how am I going to pay this fee that fee are the lessons working how are the children coping with it all? Am I doing enough? but his world is was thrust into me in a twisted patch work of felonious if not questionable antics have lead to much media furor, I don’t really need to know or want to know or understand any allegations for or against him that may or may not be true, he certainly never helped my iman nor did he make me feel any closer to Allah or suggest to me he was anything other than a pop icon.
I never found a blog anywhere to my knowledge to explain how he did or did not feel as a Muslim, nor have I ever read any article anywhere about his conversion ? I never found a story relating to his experience of Islam, for a man who was in such a high profile it perhaps would have been easy to just Google it. we expected it of him had he had this amazing amounts of people gathered together in one place, would it not have been worthy and fitting to address such an important life changing experience as a testimony to our conviction and sincerity?. He captivated and held such people in awe of his talent’ would it not come over as just a bit selfish not to share such a gift of iman with your captivated audience?
Now I am reading sheikh such an such is to do this and people are planning that, I was once asked to attend myself a ceremony to wash the body of a man who I knew was a known drug Addict/dealer he sold crack cocaine to many people in my locality I hated his life style because of the social destruction it had on people I personally knew on their home, the family, the persons but as anyone who has had a relative or friend suffering from drug psychosis will tell you they are not the most easy and approachable people to relate or advise, he was troublesome an often violent but on account of it was a Muslim brother relative and he insisted because of his birth name he was a believer? Even though every nuance’s of sense told me he was the same as john and mark or Steven, I felt bullied to do what he felt was right but I washed his body as a “Muslim” knowing what I know. now I am haunted by what I did because it draws in all the questions that make me afraid and accountable in this situation is surely the situation of one of the “hypocrites’ and this is perhaps me, we can only go by what people tell us of themselves and to adhere to “hear say” is not excepted in any court in the land, however today an often we are left with the words “he said she said” is terrible to hear in any language when we are left with the situation of its kufr and its iman.
Often we look at person and we can visibly see signs of one being a Muslim but what do we do when it all points to the opposite? I wish sometimes I was just a blade of grass.
This is just my opinion and my thoughts stirred up perhaps by the emotion of people airing thier veiw it is by no means am I calling anyone kaffir! it just frightens me to think that people are not seemingly in touch with issues which happen in and around our sphere of life, taking stock or prioritizing what is important or is it we can live almost anyhow we please without giving due care?,
I watched Michael Jackson in a documentary in the hope it would it would touch on his life as a Muslim Didn’t hear it once, but I did watch him spend money like it was water shamelessly on things that seemed almost ludicrous, that did not fit the character of one who had understanding of his religion and in the switch of a channel I saw a child with his head stuck up the arse of a cow trying to drink water because he was dying of thirst and malnutrition. it seemed so paradoxical and yet that is the world we live. It wasn’t Michael Jacksons fault it was just how everything contrasted, bearing witness and being a Muslim doesn’t always mean we must go out and do what the daee, s do sometimes it’s not in us but just as importantly we should seek to understand what Allah requires of us in order to attain his mercy working to improve what little or much we have and above all showing gratitude for the things he has caused us to avoid, I hope that the remaining peoples learn from the lessons of his mistakes if only to guide those who are bedazzled by the falsity of the life of the rich and famous to sober up and see it is a trail of magnitude and the responsibility that follows such erroneous life style can leave us facing questions none of us can shy away from because it is an issue of iman.
anyway it’s all niamahtullahs fault for bringing it up in the first place I didnt want to go back to the darkside again at least not without my copy of adab al mufrad a quran and a light saber.
June 28, 2009 at 9:48 pm
thanks for that post sister. Naima B.Robert
a good sister from the darkside ma-shaallaah her book and magazine well worth the read..!
July 1, 2009 at 2:09 am
SubhanAllah! ‘A good sister from the darkside’ – what does THAT mean?
Now shocked AND interrupted!
June 28, 2009 at 10:53 pm
LOL Idriss
too much time spent thinking about MJ?..totally agree….
but on the point of whether one’s deen being apparent and hence an indication of their imaan
that’s quite a tough one because like you I would think the same except the ahadith regarding
a) the prostitute who fed a dog -forgiven
b) the man who committed 100 murders-forgiven
c) the man who committed so many sins against himself that he ordered his sons to crush him, burn him and scatter his ashes into the sea..but for having that fear of Allah he is forgiven
to name but a few
These should certainly make me think twice next time I happen to hear of some woman selling her body, someone who murders,someone who sins to great levels etc
yes these are vices we should speak against ..but as for imaan…well even the most outwardly pious can have the worst of hearts
and hence relief knowing that Allah is the BEST of judges
personally I wouldn’t worry so much about washing the body of someone whom you suspect to be not muslim or munafiq….unfortunately we are not like Hudayfa (raa) nor can see into people’s hearts..you did the best you could
and Allah knows best.
I wish I were blade of grass too (but in jannah)
June 29, 2009 at 1:17 am
That’s the biggest load of crap I’ve read on the topic for a long time.
Hey kids – leave Music – there’s a better alternative – Quran!
How far detached from reality are you?
June 29, 2009 at 5:16 am
Right back at ya.
June 29, 2009 at 1:26 pm
Music and Quran are two completely different forms of “pleasure”. How can you even remotely substitute one for the other??
So stupid.
June 29, 2009 at 5:16 am
Dear Anonymous number 37;
“Do you know who is the one who is bankrupt?” They said, “The bankrupt is the one who has no money and no possessions.” He said, “Among my ummah, the one who is bankrupt is the one who will come on the Day of Resurrection with prayer and fasting and zakah (to his credit), but he will come having insulted this one, slandered that one, consumed the wealth of this one and shed the blood of that one, and beaten that one. So they will all be given some of his hasanaat, and when his hasanaat run out, before judgement is passed, some of their sins will be taken and cast onto him, then he will be cast into the Fire.” [Muslim: 4/1998, hadith no. 2581.]
Please be careful, not in what you say but the way in which you say it- for your own sake.
A brother who cares.
June 29, 2009 at 5:52 am
thanks to Abu Essa for discussing and putting it in a context for us’ much appreciated and to you for that reminder “S” yes you’re right it’s not in ours to hold others in judgment when Allah’s mercy is open to whomsoever he chooses, but never the less I feel for myself it’s too near to my jahiliyah to gain any benefit from even remembering’ the songs that echoed along the past of my ignorance and misguided self reminding me of encounters with people who are at present hating on Islam. to move this story along further I feel this matter should be left to the wisdom and let time to be the master because “Allah” can come between a man and his heart, remembering my youth and referring to all youth as a branch of foolishness we will all remain on misguidance until we are able to understand the vanity of it,
June 29, 2009 at 9:14 am
Hey Mr Dj …………………
Let it go!
June 29, 2009 at 1:44 pm
MashAllah AE.. Fantastic article.. U the man!
June 29, 2009 at 3:49 pm
What i don’t get is what was it about him that made everyone like him so much? Was it an X factor,some je ne se qua? Or did Allah just put something in him that gave him the ability to move everyone in the way he did. Whatever it was and whatever he had, it entertained everyone but it never gave him back any lasting peace or fulfilment. And that’s the sad thing. Now he’s gone it’s like ‘ok….is that it?!’
And there’s no point in anyone venerating him like what were seeing on tv because none of it will benefit him in anyway. I think if he could, he would tell everyone to call it a day.
It’s nice to remember him though as someone with an AMAZING talent, but at the end of the day it never really helped him and THAT fact is just so sad…its a sad, tragic reality and I hope he’s in a better place right now but Allahu alam.
June 29, 2009 at 3:56 pm
And I really loved this article by the way.
June 29, 2009 at 4:30 pm
Salams all
I’m glad about all “you the man!” comments alhamdulillah. I guess I should say I’ve been having gender issues recently and it’s nice to know that I’m still a bloke…
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Comparing Music and the Qur’an
As for Mr Miller’s comments above (the rather rude chap called “What the”) then as usual, people will always find what they’re looking for in an article, if that’s what they want to find.
Clearly, there is no comparison between the Qur’an and Music in essence; How could there be between the perfect speech of Allah jalla wa ‘ala and the deficiencies of mankind. But this issue is not about an ‘aqidah lesson.
Music concentrates on two main aspects for audiophiles: the rhythm and the message. That’s why mankind loves music so much because rhythm shakes the soul.
Play the Qur’an to a child, and then play some music to a child and watch the difference after a few minutes. The child won’t understand the messages in both mediums but will prefer listening to the music because it makes them nod, move and even dance. I hope that someone can prove me wrong but unfortunately you won’t because as a father of four, as a previous DJ, and as a lecturer in the sciences – this is a fact of life.
As for the message: sometimes the rhythm/music/beat can be absolutely rubbish but we won’t forget the lyrics either because of their profound meaning or because of the associated experience and emotion at the time when you heard those words etc.
Hence many people are currently poring over MJ’s lyrics without playing the songs themselves because of some of his interesting statements.
In this aspect there is a common nature between music and the Qur’an. As something which is listened to for its melody (which many people are forced to do who don’t understand Arabic and in fact even many Arabs), the Qur’an is up against a variety of mediums that take up the time of the listener.
Ask yourselves: how long could you listen to the Qur’an being played for intently? One hour? Two hours? Would that take a real effort? Would you start to feel bored/sleepy/tired after a while?
How long could you listen to background music for? Two to three hours perhaps?
How long could you listen to your favourite music album from your favourite artist? Two to three hours easy? More?
How long could you listen to your favourite nasheed artist for? Two to three hours?
How long could you sit there in absolute silence whilst you either work or relax or do something else? Easily a few hours?
What I’m getting to is that there is no doubt whatsoever that every option above is a disaster compared to the reward achieved of listening to the Qur’an, but if that’s the case and we ALL know that, why don’t we listen to it all day every day?
That natural difficulty and the need for rest and breaks in between becomes doubly difficult if you are addicted to music and its rhythms and don’t have a deep relationship with the Qur’an. That’s a fact that millions of people will attest to.
I think it’s interesting to realise that the listening to music is Islamically criticised more for the time that it wastes and the space it occupies in the heart and mind which should be reserved for the memorisation and understanding of that which is better. For those who can’t see that, good luck to them.
As one of the sisters above correctly mentions, so many people are told that music is disgusting and cursed etc which just confuses people and makes things more difficult because the soul knows that this is blatantly not true! The soul knows that it is literally “music to its ears” but it needs to be trained and asked to control itself and have patience in this temporal life, and that this is a big test for the many Believers who have come to Islam through that route. Well said sister, barakallahu feek.
It’s almost as ridiculous as saying to the Believers that all the beautiful women parading themselves in the hot summer days we’re having are all ugly, disgusting camels. Like, what? Who are you looking at?
No, they are beautiful, and yes, they really are a fitnah but what is even more beautiful as Ibn Qayyim mentioned is that feeling of satisfaction, that you have come closer to your Lord, by doing something really difficult i.e. lowering your gaze and having patience at that moment truly and only for the Sake of Allah jalla wa ‘ala. We all know that you could wait a little bit and then sneak another look without anyone else watching, but you will feel so cheap and defeated if you do that – you failed right? She was beautiful, she was asking to be gawked over, and you obliged and that was that.
Music is the same: great to listen to, sounds as good as you heard it the first time, but I’m going to go and do something else instead. Keep myself busy, turn off the radio, go and see a friend who I couldn’t possibly listen to music in his company, even play something Islamic like a lecture. No, too monotonous. Let’s play the Qur’an. Nah, that reciter isn’t doing it for me today, let’s try someone else. Aah, now that’s what I’m talking about.
Life is a daily struggle like that. For those who don’t understand this point, alhamdulillah because Allah has blessed you more than you’ll ever realise.
That’s why it is so important in this battle to arm yourself appropriately. The one who takes their deen seriously, utilises all the various mediums and tools available to study the various sciences in detail, will feel the need and desire to listen to more. They simply won’t even have time to listen to music, forget about feel a desire for it!
And with that note, check out my next post for some really good news on this issue…
By the way, for everyone still suffering the blues these days from being reminded of all that great music from back in the day, then just go and listen to Minshawi’s recital of Surah Ale-Imran. By Allah, it is completely out of this world.
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The Deficiencies in our Culture
Again, this seems to have confused some people so let me clarify. One chap (a misanthrope perhaps?) rather colourfully describes my paragraph as ‘if you don’t listen to music you must be addicted to porn and want to blow things up’.
Right.
Anyway.
So back to the issue at hand: I wonder out of the people who are commenting how many marriage breakdowns, relationship difficulties do they advise on? As for myself, then far too many wallahu Musta’an.
Something which manifests itself clearly in those not from a westernised culture, or those who are uneducated, or those who haven’t studied poetry etc, or those who have become practising Muslims in the West and have decided that every single thing they ever used to say or do is completely haram and evil: is the lack of social skills that have to deal with women and vice versa in difficult times.
Expressing one’s love is very difficult for such people and it really shows (hey, even myself!). I deal with couples who really love each other but could never bring themselves to say it in real physical terms, or don’t even know where to begin in doing such a thing.
The reason we used to laugh as students to the Shaykh I told you about above (the one who tells his wife love poems when she gets angry) is probably because all of us realised that we’d never do something like that! Think of the baistee! Think of the shame! What if she tells her friends! What if my friends find out!
And again, there are others who’d love to whisper a few sweet nothings into their partner’s ears but have never studied the Seerah deeply enough to recognise the intimacy that the Prophet (s) showed and said to his wife, have never studied poetry and never understood the significance of the moon when it comes to love, or the effect of an ankle bracelet glinting in the moonlight on your beloved (!) and I’m sure I could give you another 100 examples but then I’d just attract the further fury of some bigots somewhere.
There are many practising Muslims out there who have no idea or clue how to speak to their wife like the Prophet (s) would do so to his wonderful wives (may Allah be pleased with them all.) In fact, when some of them come across the famous athar of Umm Zar’ (as I have seen first-hand) they firstly can’t believe that it came from ‘Aisha and the Prophet (Sahih Muslim!) and then struggle to understand what’s going on. (I’ve put an internet version up at the end for those who haven’t read it before)
As for the Westerners and those who have been brought up in a over-sexed culture full of haram music i.e. all of us, who know everything there is to know about romance, sex, and all the rest of it: when we read such a hadith, we laugh and get an incredibly happy feeling from it and feel content that our “not so halal” experiences from before means that we understand what was going on in all those relationships in the hadith and perhaps it could now benefit us slightly in our current halal relationships for the sake of Allah and with the correct intention.
As for those who want to read into these statements that you should all now go and listen to love songs from back in the day intead of Qur’an blah blah, then perhaps you should do exactly that. I think that with such a bad opinion of your fellow Muslims in your heart, perhaps such a heart was only ever meant to listen to haram music.
Wallahu a’lam.
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‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, reported:
(One day) there sat together eleven women making an explicit promise among themselves that they would conceal nothing about their spouses.
The first one said: My husband is a sort of the meat of a lean camel placed on the top of a mountain, which is difficult to climb up, and (the meat) is not good enough that one finds in oneself the urge to fetch it (from the top of that mountain).
The second one said: My husband (is so bad) that I am afraid I will not be able to describe his defects both visible and invisible completely.
The third one said: My husband is a tall fellow. If (he learns that) I describe him, he will divorce me, and if I keep quiet I will be made to live in a state of suspense (neither completely abandoned by him nor entertained as wife).
The fourth one said: My husband is like the night of Tihamah (the night of Hijaz), neither cold nor hot, there is neither any fear of him nor discontent with him.
The fifth one said: My husband is (like) a leopard as he enters the house, and behaves like a lion when he gets out, and he does not ask about whatever happens in the house.
The sixth one said: So far as my husband is concerned, he eats so much that nothing is left back and when he drinks he drinks so that no drop is left behind. And when he lies down he wraps his body and does not touch me so that he may know my grief.
The seventh one said: My husband is heavy in spirit, weak, suffering from all kinds of conceivable diseases, heaving such rough manners that he may break my head or wound my body, or may do both.
The eighth one said: My husband is as sweet as the sweet-smelling plant, and as soft as the softness of the hare.
The ninth one said: My husband is a generous noble man, tall – wearing long sword strap having heaps of ashes (at his door an indication of generosity) and his house is near the meeting place where people seek his advice (the inn).
The tenth one said: My husband is Malik, and how fine Malik is, much above appreciation and praise (of mine). He has many folds of his camel, more in number than the pastures for them. When they (the camels) hear the sound of music they become sure that they are going to be slaughtered.
The eleventh one said: My husband is Abu Zar’. How fine Abu Zar’ is! He has suspended in my ears heavy ornaments and (fed me liberally) that my sinews and bones are covered with fat. So he made me happy. He found me among the shepherds living in the side of the mountain, and he made me the owner of the horses, camels and lands and heaps of grain and he finds no fault with me. I sleep and get up in the morning (at my own sweet will) and drink to my heart’s content. The mother of Abu Zar’, how fine is the mother of Abu Zar’! Her bundles are heavily packed (or receptacles in her house are filled to the brim) and the house quite spacious. So far as the son of Abu Zar’ is concerned, son of Abu Zar’s bed is as soft as a green palm-stick drawn forth from its bark, or like a sword drawn forth from its scabbard, and whom just an arm of a lamb is enough to satiate. So far as the daughter of Abu Zar’ is concerned, how fine is the daughter of Abu Zar’, obedient to her father, obedient to her mother, wearing sufficient flesh and is a source of jealousy for her co-wife. As for the female-slave of Abu Zar’, how fine she is; she does not disclose our affairs to others (outside the four walls of the house). She does not remove our wheat, or provision, or take it forth, or squander it, but she preserves it faithfully (as a sacred trust). And she does not let the house fill with rubbish. One day Abu Zar’ went out (of his house) when the milk was churned in the vessels, and he met a woman, having two children like leopards playing with her pomegranates (chest) under her vest. He divorced me (Umm Zar’) and married that woman whom he met on the way.
I (Umm Zar’) later on married another person, a chief, who was an expert rider, and a fine archer: he bestowed upon me many gifts and gave me one pair of every kind of animal and said: Umm Zar’, make use of everything (you need) and send forth to your family (but the fact) is that even if I combine all the gifts that he bestowed upon me, they stand no comparison to the least gift of Abu Zar’.
‘A’ishah reported that Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) said to me: I am for you as Abu Zar’ was for Umm Zar’.
Hadith number in Sahih Muslim [Arabic only]: 4481
June 29, 2009 at 6:14 pm
I dont understand
June 29, 2009 at 7:01 pm
Alhamdulillah. Brother, I am very happy that you write about the deficiencies of culture. I reverted to Islam only a few years ago and was very disappointed that love and compassion is something that only exists on paper, in present day Islam. I was/am a consumer of music; the songs, lyrics, videos, concerts and ultimately finding meaning in my life through artistic creation. Only to be told it is haram–which I understand–but there is now a void in my life. At the turn of every corner all I hear is how this or that is haram, bad deeds, sins and permissibility is limited to Quran. A language that is foreign to me and seems to be more of an ideal that flows from Muslims lips and not into their hearts or lives. I don’t understand how this has happened to Muslims.
July 9, 2009 at 2:02 am
I never loved music but whenever I heard something nice I always appreciated it as Allah’s gift to us.We have to mantain a balance between this life and the hereafter.If it does not harm you and it is not specifically haram and is in the realm of grey areas be cautious.InshaAllah pray to Allah to guide you.Music is not equivalent to adultery,drinking,eating pork and back biting,to my knwledge.Right now you should concentrate on establishing Salah and be patient with the brothers who are overwhelming you.That is their way of sharing their religion
June 29, 2009 at 8:09 pm
sorry but could you elaborate on the hadith re: umm Zar
I must have missed something. Abu Zar treated her really well but on the way out somewhere he happened to see another woman whom he divorced umm Zar for(to marry this woman he just met) and even though Umm Zar re-married..she still felt that with all the gifts her second husband gave her they stood no way in comparison to the least gift from Abu Zar….which was what?? a divorce????
sorry I am very confused…can someone enlighten me?
June 29, 2009 at 9:43 pm
you don’t forget your first love?
June 29, 2009 at 10:28 pm
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June 29, 2009 at 10:53 pm
Abu essa you are so hip man..! but that is one of my favorite stories from the mother of the believers and although you did it a mention I could hardly boast you gave it your best but everything in its time… but jazakallah khair for mention it anyway because you can gain so much from this narration on the qualities of the messenger sallahu alayhi wa salaam and the wisdom of the women folk around him well done….Maybe in the future we could benefit us all to listen to you explain that in all its deferent dimensions… spot on about the kids 110% every time our 2 year old hears the bbc news intro that’s her queue to act like she is in a rave….lol Have to turn the volume off in case she goes into some next level trance moves.
June 29, 2009 at 11:39 pm
I recalled this passage in my memory as the lean camel rotting and when the wind blew it,s smell was so overwhelmingly bad. Could that be similar or incorrect? Hence she did not want to fetch it…? I feel I maybe be between 3 and 4 Ill have to check with the old trouble and strife….. only Joking!
June 30, 2009 at 2:01 am
BTW for those of you who may be interested, there is an explanation available on the hadith of Umm Zar’a called:
Eleven Women and Their Husbands (An Explanation of the Hadeeth of Umm Zar’a)
- Muhammad Ibn ‘Abdul-Kareem Al-Qazweenee
Thought provoking and an entertaining read, it serves to explain the symbolism used in the hadith and I found it humorous at times.
You can buy it here:
http://www.darussalam.com/product_info.php?products_id=1485
Or read some of the pages here:
http://islamicbookstore.com/b9231.html
Enjoy the read!!!
June 30, 2009 at 4:06 am
- Although I did feel extremely sorry for Umm Zar’a that Abu Zar’a divorced her…
June 30, 2009 at 10:43 am
Some more points on the hadith of Umm Zar’.
Extra additions at the end of the hadith.
Some of the other narrations have very interesting additions after the Prophet’s (May Allah bestow blessings upon him) statement: ‘I am for you as Abu Zar’ was for Umm Zar’.
In the version of Haitham Bin Adi, He (May Allah bestow blessings upon him) further says “in harmony & fidelity not in disagreement & conflict”. In Al-Zubair’s narration there is “except that he divorced her and I will not divorce you”. In the narration reported by Al-Nisaai and and al-Tabarani, Aishah replies by saying “O Messenger of Allah, rather you are better than Abu Zar’ ”.
Also in some reports, Abu Zar later seems to regret divorcing her and consequently composes poetry in her praise.
A text in Arabic eloquence
This hadith is normally used as an example of the depth of Arabic and it’s eloquence. Many of the different types of balagha are found in this hadith, especially in the description by Umm Zar’. Some of the basic types include the way the words swing together and at times rhyme using al-saj’. Also the repetitive use of tashbeeh makes it a good case study for identifying the different pillars and types of similes.
It could be misunderstood that it was the Prophet (May Allah bestow blessings upon him) who narrated what the different women said, but it wasn’t. It was Aishah (May Allah be pleased with her). This shows the depth of her language. Aishah knew much about the stories of the Arabs. There is a report from Al-Zuhri that Aishah memorized 18,000 lines of poetry!
The Prophet listens while Aishah speaks.
Can you imagine that? On a random night, the Prophet (May Allah’s blessings be upon him) sits back, relaxes and listens to his wife narrate a story. For many of us, our partners are the last people we would sit with for a long conversation, unless it’s an argument of course. This shows the character of our beloved and his relationship with his wives (May Allah bestow blessings upon him). The same inside as he was outside, if not better.
The names for different sleeping periods
When praising Abu Zar’s qualities, Umm Zar mentions how she gives him the freedom to “sleep and get up in the morning”. Shaikh Aai’dh al-Qarni says when the arabs use ‘Al-Subhah’ for sleep, they mean after the Fajr prayer. There are different names for different sleep times in the day:
Haylulah – After the fajr prayer. Sleep at this time was disliked amongst the Arabs.
Faylulah – At al-Dhuha
Qaylulah – Before or after the dhuhr prayer.
Ghaylulah– After the Asr prayer
In this context although the word Haylulah is not used, the scholars said it is referring to this morning time. Hence Abu Zar’ would allow her to return to sleep after the Fajr prayer. This is probably one of the times when chores are most in the house, however he was very easy with her. A lesson for us lads.
Love can make you blind to shortcomings
Even though Abu Zar’ divorced her, it didn’t stop her from praising him. Ibn Hajr says,
“Love veils everything. Your love for something can blind and deafen. Hence, this woman loved her first husband but he still divorced her. Whereas, the second husband liked her but she still praised the first. Despite not being good to her by the divorce, her heart was still attached to him.”
Maybe this is why Abu Zar’ remained in her heart. He gave her more than gifts and material benefits, he gave her love and affection. That’s what a wife wants more than anything else; to be wanted and valued. Other scholars said it could also be because he was the first husband which can be enough of a factor by itself. As Abu Tamam said “وما الحب إلا للحبيب الأول”.
Further references
These are just some random points taken from explanations on the net. If anyone wants to learn more about this fascinating hadith or check references, there’s the following in Arabic:
• Shaikh Abu Ishaq Al-Huwayni has a series on the the house of the Prophet (May Allah send upon him blessings). This explanation is the one that covers the hadith of Umm Zar’ and is available in video too. http://www.islamway.com/?iw_s=Lesson&iw_a=view&lesson_id=67959
• He also has a smaller separate video clip giving advice to the Men using the 7 specific praised qualities of Abu Zar’ as a husband. Very important advice, especially for us more ‘dominant’ folks (like the pathans!). http://www.mashahd.net/view_video.php?viewkey=4dee908db2db5f6bf23c&page=1&viewtype=basic&category=mr. (You can watch/listen to the hadith being narrated from 20:10 onwards).
• Shaikh Aa’idh al-Qarni has a lecture that has been transcribed. It’s quite nicely broken down and is fairly easy to follow mainly relying on the explanations of Qadhi Iyad and Ibn Hajar. http://audio.islamweb.net/audio/index.php?page=FullContent&audioid=19621
• The same site has article for Shaikh Abu Ishaq. http://audio.islamweb.net/audio/index.php?page=FullContent&audioid=103706
• Finally, Shaikh Salih Munajjid also has one. http://www.islamprophet.ws/ref/345
These are the contemporary explanations, there are classical ones around too with Qadhi Iyad’s probably the most famous.
Might be useful for some.
June 30, 2009 at 2:49 pm
JazakAllah khair!
June 30, 2009 at 4:02 pm
JazakAllah khair.
June 30, 2009 at 7:03 pm
jazakAllahukhayrn for that excellent info
any chance that you have a blog where you share further knowledge that you have gained?
June 30, 2009 at 1:19 pm
Respected Brother, What u have written raises some important questions and puts music in a realistic perspective, but certain things such as romantic poetry, lyrics or love stories and songs are just not encouraged in Islam as far as my humble knowledge is concerned, because just like music they create uncontrollable, passionate emotions in humans that have devastating effects on relationships, marriages and society (as can be seen from the divorce rates today inspite of the abundance of romantic expression of every kind readily available in every house, including music, novels, movies, even cartoons that are all replete with romance) Yet that is not the ONLY ingredient for a successful marriage or relationship, I would say it is taqwa or Allah-consciousness that makes us caring husbands, wives or individuals.
One more thing, it is understood that many of the things that we Muslims have been commanded to do or refrain from are highly TEMPTING such as uncovering beauty for females (who doesn’t want to be a head- turner), getting up for Fajr and tahajjud (sleep is the most addictive thing), not making millions in riba, not doing israaf ie spending extravagantly on ourselves (who doesn’t like shopping sprees), not consuming alcohol or drugs (the high is pure pleasure right?),and so on, but ALL these things are undeniably also HARMFUL for us and society at large in THIS WORLD too, in the long run. Similarly MUSIC too, is obviously very tempting but it has endless harmful effects on our lives, relationships and society at large. Have we ever wondered why not even one of the musicians or artists have a healthy or happy life, why almost all of them are on drugs, have multiple, broken marriages, often commit suicide and are basically not the happiest of creatures. Many have been reported to have ties with satanic cults and incorporate their beliefs in their songs. There is a reason why Allah Ta’ala has called music the voice of Satan, and this strengthens my faith in the fact that I made the right decision to leave MUSIC that had been my day and night for so many years. Yes, i still write romantic poetry, only for my husband, and we sing to each other when we are alone (as this is allowed in Islam), and we listen to Quran (the beautiful, lyrical healer of souls)and Islamic nasheeds and I never want to return to that dark world of music and Michael Jackson and Madonna and Nine Inch Nails ever ever again. May Allah protect us all, ameen. If I have written anything wrong may Allah forgive me and anything right I have stated is from Allah Alone.
Um e Abdullah
June 30, 2009 at 3:55 pm
jazak-allah thanks for that kifayatullah
June 30, 2009 at 4:50 pm
Sister I didn’t see that Islam does not encourage such things rather this is from one of life’s bounties to enjoy the halal as you clearly said you did it for your husband and visa verse surely now that is what the respected brothers have shown us that this is from the hassanat of enjoying the halal. Hence were you to have done it any other way it may have been sinning, but the messenger Allah sat enjoying his wife’s stories points out to the excellence and the uprightness of Ayesha and a testimony to the wisdom of the women who sat in her company or in and around them. And as for Umm Zara I don’t think that is the end of the world for her as we all know life doesn’t end just because of a divorce although to us it may be a traumatic experience many people go on to live for bigger and better understanding and bounce back as good never goes unrewarded, I am sure she went on to live a complete a fullfiled life. Allahu Alim
June 30, 2009 at 7:27 pm
I meant to say that love stories, songs and poetry is not allowed as an integral part of culture or social life in Islam. Muslims know very well how to express love and emotions to people they are not married to, yet the moment they tie the knot, all romantic thoughts and gestures are bid farewell, they are not meant for the wife, also once a couple settles into mundane routine, they often overlook or neglect to cater to the emotional side of their relationship and hence the relationship falls apart after a while.
June 30, 2009 at 9:32 pm
re: love stories, poems and songs
I was wondering whether listening / reading such poems might just cause more marriage problems…
a) should “bedroom” conversations and more be expressed pubicly (however subtle) even in the arts…..( she was asleep..i stole a kiss)
b) one may feel resentment towards one’s spouse that such and such a people were like this with their loved ones and my spouse is nothing like that???
I think pre-marriage counselling would be good and a must for all potential newly weds…as a pre-condition of you doing their nikaah.
and clarity on the situation of the in-laws..defnitely one of the bigger problems especially for a woman ….why do asian mother in laws impose so much into their sons marriages???
June 30, 2009 at 9:46 pm
(I meant to say that love stories, songs and poetry is not allowed as an integral part of culture or social life in Islam.) Who said? I found many of the scholars of Islam to be full prose and Natural poets in Islam quite proverbial listening in that they teach us on another level to engage us to laugh cry sympathies with the human condition, Love Songs and poetry are not allowed maybe IF in that they contain inappropriate Talk or behavior perhaps? I never read in any hadith book or narration explicitly banning the use of prose or the use of proverbs. Admittedly there are good and bad marriages were only as good as the work you put in, you can’t plant apples and then expect pears? people are only as good or capable as their experience allows them to be, you put your trust in Allah and be as good as you can and the rest we must learn over time, men and women are of deferent grades you can’t lump them all together there are good and bad Muslims many poor happy blessed Muslims, many rich and poorly confused and blessed Muslims, I guess the treatment is here is not to get confused or allow each other to be mundane or to treat others as mundane, I guess the answer here is you treat others how you yourself would wish to be treated’ its always the same method wither we are young or old we only learn what we live’ theory always informs but practice is what really convinces. we are all here to learn it Insha-Allah thats why we like coming here its like having a cold bucket of water chucked over us it wakes us up and can be quite refreshing.
July 1, 2009 at 4:50 am
Abu Eisa goes on another rant making up his own rules that all music is haraam. Ignorance beyond comprehension.
What is wrong with a song about mothers/fathers/sons or good? What on earth is wrong with playing something beneficial and spreading peace and wholesome messages? Give me A SINGLE LOGICAL explanation for telling me such songs are haraam.
You can’t – you will rattle off out of context hadiths that have NOTHING WHATSOEVER to do with my question and then say music is evil without actually knowing what you are saying.
If the lyrics are haraam, then listening to it is haraam, if the lyrics are good – give me AS SINGLE REASON why singing about the people of Gaza or brotherhood or tolerance is haraam.
You are an unqualified jahil. read how mighty scholars of the past contributed to the field before you rehash what you read on a website.
July 1, 2009 at 4:58 am
Clutching at straws – a failed comparison between music and the Qu’ran, now comparing music with naked women. Make up your mind.
“Music is the same: great to listen to, sounds as good as you heard it the first time, but I’m going to go and do something else instead. Keep myself busy, turn off the radio, go and see a friend who I couldn’t possibly listen to music in his company, even play something Islamic like a lecture. No, too monotonous. Let’s play the Qur’an. Nah, that reciter isn’t doing it for me today, let’s try someone else. Aah, now that’s what I’m talking about.”
Yes, that’s because the spirit needs a balance. You cannot sit there listening to Qu’ran every single minute – you get sick of listening to music after a while and want something more spiritual. So you put the Qu’ran on, even whilst you sleep.
After you’ve memorised some of it and it’s “in your head” you listen to some music because you want to work out or just relax. SO WHAT? Our Ummah is where it is because of music?
Get back to reality!
July 1, 2009 at 6:34 am
Actually back in the day I never got bored of music, there is always something new to listen to right? Be it boyzÌÌmen, usher, 112… Nope never got bored. So you’re wrong. Some people live and breath music. Where are the boundaries? Not to mention the profits of the music industry and consumerism.
Muslim boy bands and solo artists are fancied and idolised by young girls.
I actually think that yes, it is contributing to the state of the ummah, the men are too busy singing and dancing, neglecting their obligations.
Women, young girls are being raped in Iraq, and we are singing and posing for the latest cover of our soon to be released album.
There was one song that really irritated me, something along the lines of: “I have sinned, i’m a sinner’ then the chorus. If you recognise your sin, make istighfar man, or pray salatul taubah, what are you doing still singing the chorus?
July 3, 2009 at 3:35 am
What a joke.
Please write something that makes some sense.
July 1, 2009 at 8:30 am
Honest question please.
“(One day) there sat together eleven women making an explicit promise among themselves that they would conceal nothing about their spouses.”
How does this not fall under
a) Gheebah
b) the issue of Hafidhatul Ghayb and protecting the secrets of the house?
July 1, 2009 at 3:52 pm
Re stories, poems and songs, people reveal what they do perhaps they want to show people by their own example a portent of kindness or art because to instruct people in virtue is an art and skill not given to everybody to maintain a quality of life and a level of good. what you can’t do perhaps is take out the bad that is in people, as they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder everybody’s example of beauty is different and incompatible with the persons next to them; as quality doesn’t equal with quantity but some people would rather have more than have less but with quality, things being left to choice people are incapable of making good and bad choices which is the cause of most people’s unhappiness. the same as are envy greed and avarice al these things go to make unhappy people its sometime the nature of people to covert what they don’t possess surly that’s the damaging aspect and when some reading blogs you will always see negative things if you have a source of unhappiness, I am one hundred percent sure most men are messed up by the nature of their own character as are women. we are always looking for things to blame why things aren’t right’ and if we can’t find something to blame we invent it. we will never except that we are constantly looking for a crisis or a conflict of interest perhaps because we unplugged from the influence in our lives that are sending the wrong messages stop listening to others and listen to the voice of reason or when we distance ourselves from remembering Allah then we willing let go of the one who is driving we give up on that’ then we allow ourselves to become as others to except less than guidance’ we deserve to be punished just as a person gives you a gift doesn’t always mean you should return the favor treat them back, sometimes seeing the joy on the persons face is reward enough and many people are actually blameworthy for every situation in their lives be it good or bad or right or wrong we often turn and blame others for what is ultimately is ours to change.
July 1, 2009 at 5:39 pm
idriss i luv your posts but i wud love them infinitely more if they had paragraphs…
July 2, 2009 at 10:29 am
salam ustath. Please could you one day write a lovely post on love and romantic poetry and how passionate the islamic socieites of the past were about it and how to bring this beauty back into our lives? thank you so much for this. we truly have become a very dry people.
July 2, 2009 at 11:22 am
Why is it so hard to love people who don’t love you back?
July 2, 2009 at 2:15 pm
It does not strike me as something a person with iman would be troubled to ask since loving people has its own reward regardless. if people don’t love us back it’s a question of “sincerity” if you’re looking for your reward from people then you’re often going to be sad and disappointed.
if you did it for Allah’s sake you’re going to be happy’ the question is more important to the one who is asking since the term love has many wide and possible meanings,
it’s very child like to look on things in these terms of “I gave you this much love therefore I get this much in return which is undoubtedly always going to appear to be your more to receives your less in which case you will see yourself first hence the disappointment, Allahu Alim. love and hate for Allahs sake,
…”So it is that we can seldom help anybody. Either we don’t know what part to give or maybe we don’t like to give any part of ourselves. Then, more often than not, the part that is needed is not wanted. And even more often, we do not have the part that is needed. It is like the auto-supply shop over town where they always say, ‘Sorry, we are just out of that part.’”
quote from a book by Norman Mclean
“A river runs through”
July 2, 2009 at 4:47 pm
Asalamalaikum,
Jazakallah for this piece, brother, it really resonated with me. I’m too young to have known Michael Jackson, but you speak to an issue which I–and do many other Muslims–have struggled with. I have always been attracted to music, have had those bands and artists that i obsessed over in my childhood, have felt a sweet sort of nostalgia whenever I happen to hear old familiar songs. But at the same time I’ve been conflicted with the knowledge that it does more harm than good and takes me away from the remembrance of Allah. It’s a constant back-and-forth for me, but article hits the issue right on the spot. It’s a test really, to let something go even though you love it and think it’s beautiful, because you know it’s just the right thing to do. I really liked that hadith posted by a commenter earlier about the tree in Jannah that makes music more beautiful than anything on earth. Inshallah in Jannah we will listen to this purest and most beautiful sound in the presence of Allah SWT if only we forgo music in this life!
July 17, 2009 at 2:16 pm
Brother “What The” whilst I too have some questions re balance, you should address your questions in a more respectful manner. I too love music and it’s one of my biggest struggles but this isn’t the way to discuss things. We’re Muslims, and therefore we must adhere to a code of behaviour placed before us by our beloved Nabi sallAllahu alaihi wa salam.
I would really like and appreciate brother Abu Eesa to address your concerns but I strongly doubt he will because you’re not *inviting* him to engage in dialogue when you’re on the attack like this.
I get where you’re coming from *totally* as I too wonder how *harmful* it can be to occasionally listen to songs which praise for example your mother. My roots hail from the Caucasus and none of our songs are crude in the least; they are like poetry to my ears and I can’t see how my *Most Merciful* Creator would punish me for this ‘love’? Especially when we could be doing far worse like indulging in Zina, drinking and what have you.
But again I can’t see Abu Eesa bothering with this concern/question because you are not asking him, you’re just attacking him.
Remember my brother, it’s our tongues that will land us in Jahannam – please be mindful of this when you next unleash your wrath on others, especially an elder.
July 29, 2009 at 2:13 pm
assalamu alaykum,
b4 labelling me a lunatic, read carefully what I write and research it in trustworthy islamic sources, may Allah give us a good understanding of our deen…..
maybe the tremendous affect MJ had on ppl was due to the “magic” of music as it is the “tool” of shaytan…and he may have been influenced or helped by “jinn” to have such “moves” as in some of his vidios it seems as though he is walking in the “air” above ground level…only jinn can help you do that…and despite all his surgeries there is something eeriee about his face…innocently satanic……sorry if I don’t make sense to some…..but to those who have knowledge of human involvement with the jinn or satanic world (literally), may Allah protect us….and for those who know of the Yemeni magician who repented and returned to Islam after inheriting his relationship with the “Jinn” the jinn or shayateen don’t let you go so easily, when this yemeni did tawba the jinn took revenge and murdered his children in front of him and also killed his pregnant wife so there is a price to pay …. so even if MJ wanted to convert his satanic allies would not make it easy for him …..and Allah knows best the reason for his death and what his true intentions were.